the mirror method

a six-month private container for rebuilding self-trust through the relationships you’re already in.

this is where you stop looping, stop outsourcing safety, and begin making decisions you can actually stand behind.

for people who can feel a pattern isn’t working anymore and are ready to understand what’s actually going on without blame or urgency.

this is intimate work. spots are limited and entry is application-based.

what this is

the mirror method is a six month private container for people who are inside a relationship pattern that no longer feels workable, but do not yet trust themselves enough to know what to do. rather than focusing on fixing your partner or forcing a decision, this work helps you understand the dynamic you are in, your role within it, and how to rebuild self trust from the inside out. over time, clarity replaces urgency, and choice becomes something you can make without collapsing, self abandoning, or outsourcing your power.

what we stop doing

  • looping the same conversations, arguments, and inner debates
  • outsourcing safety to a partner’s behavior, reassurance, or potential
  • reacting from urgency, fear, or the need to control the outcome
  • turning self-awareness into self-blame or over-responsibility

what we build instead

  • the ability to see relational dynamics clearly and calmly
  • self-trust that allows you to pause, discern, and choose
  • emotional steadiness without shutting down or overreaching
  • decision-making rooted in reality rather than hope or fear

this is for you if

you can feel that something isn’t working anymore

even if you can’t yet name exactly what it is or what needs to change

you keep looping between staying and leaving

and neither option feels fully accessible or honest right now

you tend to focus on your partner instead of yourself

and want to understand your role without blaming or shaming yourself

you’re ready to stop asking “what should i do?”

and start building the capacity to hear and trust your own answer

what’s inside

the mirror method is delivered as a six month private container that combines a self guided curriculum with live, ongoing support. you move through the material at your own pace, while being held inside a steady rhythm of weekly touchpoints and community presence. my role is not to manage your emotions or tell you what to do, but to help you see clearly, build self trust, and integrate what you are learning into your real relationships as they unfold.

container structure

  • a six-month guided container with lifetime access to the core curriculum
  • weekly live Q&A calls for support, clarification, and integration
  • a structured five-module framework you move through independently
  • a private Skool community for reflection, shared language, and grounding

what you walk away with

  • the ability to see relational dynamics clearly without spiraling or blaming
  • self-trust strong enough to pause, discern, and choose without collapse
  • emotional steadiness that doesn’t require shutting down or overreaching
  • a grounded sense of agency you carry into future relationships and decisions

how it works

over six months, you move from confusion and looping into clarity and self trust. the process is intentionally slow and spacious. you begin by learning how to see the dynamic you are in, then deepen into understanding your own relational survival strategy, and gradually build the capacity to interrupt old patterns and make decisions without urgency. there is no rush to arrive at an outcome. the focus is on integration, discernment, and developing a relationship with yourself that you can rely on long after the container ends.

module 1 · seeing the dynamic clearly

you learn how to step out of the narrative you have been looping in and begin seeing the relationship as a dynamic rather than a problem to solve. this module helps you slow down, stabilize, and understand the pattern you are inside without turning against yourself or your partner.

module 2 · understanding your relational survival strategy

you begin to understand the internal strategies that shape your reactions, choices, and attachments. instead of trying to override your behavior, you learn where it comes from and how your past continues to inform the present, without turning awareness into self blame.

module 3 · interrupting the loop without losing yourself

this module supports you in recognizing the moment a loop begins and learning how to pause without disappearing or forcing an outcome. you build the capacity to stay present with intensity, respond instead of react, and move through activation without abandoning yourself.

module 4 · capacity, evidence, and discernment

you learn how to evaluate a relationship based on capacity rather than intention, words, or imagined futures. this module supports clear eyed discernment, understanding what safety actually requires, what accountability looks like in practice, and whether a dynamic is truly workable.

module 5 · choosing without collapsing

the final module is about consolidation. whether you stay or leave, you learn how to choose without collapsing inward, self abandoning, or rushing past grief. this is where self trust becomes something you can rely on, not just in this relationship, but moving forward.

investment

this container is an investment in building self trust once, rather than paying the emotional cost of repeating the same patterns for years.

  • $3,000 usd paid in full
  • payment plans available upon acceptance

what you’re paying for

  • a six-month guided container designed to rebuild self-trust
  • a complete five-module framework you keep for life
  • weekly live Q&A support for integration and discernment
  • access to a private community grounded in responsibility, not reassurance

logistics

  • rolling enrollment with limited spots
  • weekly live Q&A calls (recorded if you can’t attend)
  • hosted inside a private Skool community
  • support is provided through structured calls and community, not 24/7 emotional access

faq

will this tell me whether to stay or leave my relationship?

no. this container is not about giving advice or directing outcomes. the work is about helping you see clearly and build enough self trust to make your own decision without urgency, pressure, or self abandoning. some people stay. some people leave. what matters is that the choice comes from clarity rather than fear.

is this therapy or coaching?

this is not therapy, and it is not traditional coaching. the mirror method is a guided container focused on relational patterns, discernment, and self trust. it does not replace mental health care and is not designed to process acute trauma or crisis. the work is reflective, integrative, and responsibility based.

what kind of support do i receive?

support is offered through weekly live Q&A calls and the private community space. you are encouraged to engage thoughtfully rather than seek constant reassurance. this container is designed to build your capacity to self regulate and discern, not to provide ongoing emotional processing or crisis support.

who is this not a good fit for?

this container is not for people looking for guarantees, scripts, or reassurance. it is also not a fit if you want someone else to tell you what to do, or if you are currently in acute emotional crisis and need immediate, high touch support. this work requires willingness to slow down, reflect, and take responsibility for your inner world.

apply

if this container feels aligned, the next step is to apply. the application helps ensure this is the right fit for where you are and how you are ready to engage. once submitted, you will receive a response with next steps. in some cases, an optional call may be offered for clarification before acceptance.

spots are limited. applications are reviewed on a rolling basis. response times are typically within a few days.