Fortress + Chaser

This result reflects a primary Fortress pattern, with Chaser tendencies as a secondary survival strategy. Your nervous system defaults to emotional distance — but beneath that stoic exterior lives a part of you that craves closeness and scrambles to preserve it when it feels threatened.

At the core, you’re driven by the Fortress: someone who learned to stay safe by staying guarded. You keep your inner world locked down, rely on yourself, and prefer control over chaos. Vulnerability doesn’t come easily — not because you don’t want connection, but because connection has often felt unsafe, overwhelming, or conditional. You learned to protect your emotions, stay one step ahead, and shut the door before someone else can.

But layered beneath that protective stance is your secondary pattern — the Chaser. This part of you wakes up when you really care about someone, especially when the dynamic starts to feel uncertain or unstable. You might find yourself reaching out more than you’d like, over-explaining, or monitoring their emotional temperature in a way that feels at odds with how you usually show up. It’s confusing — to be so self-contained and yet so desperate to fix a disconnect when it appears.

Together, this pairing often looks like contradiction. You pull away to feel safe, then lunge forward when fear of loss kicks in. You might ghost and then text. Detach and then explain. Freeze and then overfunction. It’s not because you’re hot and cold — it’s because your body is toggling between two survival responses: protect me and don’t leave me.

✨ The good news? These patterns aren’t your identity — they’re your history. They reflect the moves you had to make to survive emotional inconsistency, betrayal, or enmeshment. But now you’re in a position to choose differently. You don’t have to shut down to stay safe. You don’t have to chase to stay connected. You can build relationships that honor your need for space and your need for intimacy.

This quiz result is your first step in understanding the Fortress + Chaser dynamic.

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When you're ready, explore the Chaser ebook to understand the roots of relational urgency, calm your nervous system, and stop abandoning yourself in the pursuit of connection.