Devotee + Chaser

This result reflects a primary Devotee pattern, with Chaser tendencies as a secondary survival strategy. Your nervous system is wired to maintain closeness by being useful, thoughtful, and emotionally available — even at the cost of your own needs. You don’t just offer care — you become it.

At the core, you’re driven by the Devotee: someone who learns to secure love by anticipating others' feelings and showing up as the reliable, selfless one. You tend to override your own discomfort to be “the bigger person,” often softening your boundaries or minimizing your needs to keep the connection intact. You may not even realize how often you’re performing emotional labor — because it’s second nature.

Layered underneath this caregiving instinct is your secondary Chaser pattern. When you start to feel distant, rejected, or unsure where you stand, the need for reassurance spikes. You may reach out more, over-explain, or even abandon your own truth just to stabilize the connection. You don’t just want closeness — you need confirmation that you matter, and when that’s uncertain, it can be deeply dysregulating.

This pairing creates a cycle of external orientation. You monitor for emotional shifts, track tone and behavior, and pivot fast to prevent rupture. The cost? You’re often overextending, under-receiving, and unsure if you’re even allowed to have needs of your own. You might feel like you’re giving everything and still not getting the intimacy you crave — a painful loop of self-abandonment dressed up as devotion.

Your primary wound isn’t just about being left — it’s about not being chosen back with the same energy and care you offer others. Beneath your generosity is a child who learned that love must be earned through performance, sacrifice, or emotional availability.

✨ The good news? These patterns are protective, not permanent. You’re not too much. You’re not too needy. You’re someone who learned to secure love through self-sacrifice — and now, you get to unlearn what’s no longer serving you.

This quiz result is your first step in understanding the Devotee + Chaser dynamic.Start with the Devotee ebook — a 60+ page deep dive into over-functioning, emotional overextension, and learning how to stop caring your way into self-abandonment.

When you’re ready, explore the Chaser ebook, which will help you soothe the anxious pursuit underneath your patterns, reconnect to your own worth, and feel safe staying still.