Chaser + Vanisher

This result reflects a primary Chaser pattern, with Vanisher tendencies as a secondary survival response. You lead with emotional pursuit and relational intensity — but when your efforts go unmet or feel risky, you instinctively detach to protect yourself.

At your core, you’re driven by the Chaser: someone who feels safest when connection is clear, consistent, and emotionally present. You tend to initiate conversations, track subtle shifts, and invest deeply. Your nervous system equates closeness with safety — and when something feels off, your impulse is to move toward it to fix, clarify, or reconnect.

But layered beneath that pursuit is your Vanisher survival strategy. When you don’t feel met, when vulnerability goes unanswered, or when the emotional labor falls solely on you, your system hits the brakes. You emotionally check out. You might physically stay, but something in you pulls back — protecting yourself from disappointment before it can fully land. You may even ghost or go quiet without fully understanding why.

This pairing creates a confusing internal loop: the part of you that wants deep connection fights against the part that fears what happens once you’re in too deep. You seek reassurance and emotional presence, but if it feels like too much effort or risk, you withdraw. Not because you don’t care — but because part of you believes care without reciprocation is dangerous.

Your primary wound centers around emotional inconsistency — being drawn in with connection, then left to carry the weight alone. To survive this, you learned two key moves: reach out for closeness and clarity — and vanish when it starts to feel unreciprocated, unpredictable, or unsafe.

✨ The good news? These patterns aren’t personal failings — they’re survival strategies. And now that you’re aware of them, you can interrupt the cycle. You can stay with your needs longer before ghosting your own heart. You can make space for your emotional experience without abandoning yourself when it feels vulnerable.

This quiz result is your first step in understanding the Chaser + Vanisher dynamic.

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