Chaser + Lone Wolf

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The Pursuit-Avoidance Cycle

This result reflects a primary Chaser pattern, with Lone Wolf tendencies as a secondary survival response. You lead with connection-seeking and emotional intensity — but when that vulnerability doesn’t feel safe or reciprocated, you retreat into self-reliance.

At the core, you’re driven by the Chaser: the part of you that longs to feel chosen, prioritized, and emotionally close. You often initiate, reach out, and try to create a sense of “we” — especially when you feel uncertainty in the relationship. Your nervous system equates closeness with safety, and distance with danger. So when something feels off, your first instinct is to close the gap. But that vulnerability doesn’t come without risk.

Enter your secondary pattern — the Lone Wolf. When your efforts to connect aren’t met, or when your emotions feel dismissed, a different part of you steps in. You shut down, pull back, and try to convince yourself you don’t need anyone. It's not indifference — it's defense. You isolate as a form of protection, but underneath that distance is a deep hurt: “I tried. I opened. And it still wasn’t safe.”

This combination creates a push-pull dynamic internally. You care deeply, but struggle with what to do when that care isn’t returned. You might oscillate between wanting to be fully seen and wanting to disappear. You might even shame yourself for needing too much, then resent yourself for pulling away.

Your core wound is tied to inconsistent emotional safety. At some point, reaching for love came with risk — and when it wasn’t met, you learned to do it all alone. You became someone who chases connection, but also someone who knows exactly how to survive without it. The result? A heart that craves intimacy but a nervous system that doesn’t always trust it.

The good news? These patterns are protective, not permanent. You’re not too much. You’re not too distant. You’re someone who learned how to survive both abandonment and disappointment — and now, you get to unlearn what’s no longer serving you.

This quiz result is your first step in understanding the Chaser + Lone Wolf dynamic.

Start with the Chaser ebook — a 60+ page deep dive into emotional pursuit, unmet needs, and learning how to anchor into self-worth before seeking it in someone else.

When you’re ready, explore the Lone Wolf ebook, which will help you soften into connection without losing your independence, and build safety without isolation.

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Why this ebook?

Why this isn't just another ebook — it's your blueprint forward

This guide isn’t here to tell you what’s wrong with you. It’s here to show you what’s been *running you* — and how to finally shift it.
This pattern formed because you had to adapt. But now that survival strategy is running on autopilot, even when it’s hurting your relationships.

This guide shows you how to shift the pattern without shame. Inside, you’ll learn to understand your nervous system, rewrite old emotional loops, and build the kind of connection that doesn’t cost you your truth.

You’ll get the language, the tools, and the grounded steps to heal, from the inside out.
📖 60+ pages of trauma-informed insight
✍️ Scripts, journal prompts, and real examples
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🌀 Tailored to your primary pattern with support for your secondary
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