Chaser + Fortress

This result reflects a primary Chaser pattern, with Fortress tendencies as a secondary survival response. You lead with vulnerability and emotional pursuit — but when that pursuit feels unsafe or unrewarded, you retreat into guarded self-protection.

At the core, you’re driven by the Chaser: a nervous system shaped by a deep desire for closeness, reassurance, and emotional reciprocity. You often initiate connection, ask the hard questions, and express how you feel in hopes of bridging the emotional gap. When the connection feels distant or unclear, your system ramps up — reaching, questioning, trying to fix. It’s not about drama. It’s about wanting to feel secure.

But when that emotional energy is met with rejection, confusion, or withdrawal, the Fortress in you kicks in. You begin to wall up. Instead of chasing harder, you harden. You get quiet, cold, even resentful — not because you no longer care, but because continuing to care feels too dangerous. You shut the gates to protect your heart.

This pairing can create intense internal friction. You might find yourself pouring love into someone, and then the moment they pull away or disappoint you, you emotionally shut the door. It’s “come close — no, get out.” You crave intimacy but don’t trust what happens when you offer it. You might feel like a pendulum swinging between over-giving and total shutdown.

Your primary wound centers around emotional abandonment — particularly when you were open, honest, or vulnerable. As a child or in early relationships, you may have been told you were too much, too needy, or too emotional. So you learned to seek connection with intensity, but to shut down when it wasn’t safe to be met.

✨ The good news? These are survival strategies, not personality flaws. You can learn to hold your emotional truth without either chasing or walling off. You can stay soft without losing yourself — and stay grounded without going cold.

This quiz result is your first step in untangling the Chaser + Fortress dynamic.

Start with the Chaser ebook — a powerful 60+ page guide that helps you regulate emotional urgency, reclaim your worth, and stop trying to earn love that should already be safe.

Then explore the Fortress ebook, which will help you understand your walls, soften without losing your edge, and build connection from a place of trust rather than defense.