Chaser + Devotee

This result reflects a primary Chaser pattern, with Devotee tendencies as a secondary survival response. Your nervous system reaches for closeness through both pursuit and service — you long to feel chosen, and you prove your worth by showing up, again and again, even when it costs you.

At the core, you’re led by the Chaser: the part of you that needs connection to feel secure. You initiate, express, and reach. When someone pulls away, you feel it instantly — and often respond by trying to bridge the gap. Whether it’s through words, affection, or effort, you want to fix it before it’s too late. Underneath this drive is a fear: if I don’t keep trying, will they still choose me?

But when direct pursuit doesn’t land — or starts to feel like too much — your Devotee pattern kicks in. Instead of chasing louder, you pivot toward quiet self-abandonment. You over-function emotionally. You become helpful, reliable, steady — the person who’s “always there.” You downplay your own needs and focus on theirs, hoping your loyalty will make them stay. On the surface, it looks like care. But underneath, it’s a survival strategy: if I’m needed, I won’t be left.

This pairing often leads to over-extension. You give more than you have. You prioritize others even when you’re depleted. And still, it might feel like it’s not enough. You might wonder, “Why am I trying so hard and still feeling unseen?”

Your core wound is tied to emotional abandonment — particularly the kind where love felt like something you had to earn. You learned to chase when connection felt shaky, and when that didn’t work, you devoted yourself even harder, believing that consistency would create safety.

✨ The good news? You’re not broken. These are learned attachment strategies that can be unlearned. You don’t have to keep proving your worth to be loved. Your needs are not a burden — they’re a compass.

This quiz result is your first step in understanding the Chaser + Devotee dynamic.

Begin with the Chaser ebook — a powerful 60+ page guide to help you soothe anxious pursuit, set boundaries rooted in self-worth, and build secure, mutual relationships.

Then explore the Devotee ebook, which walks you through the subtle ways you self-abandon through helpfulness, and teaches you how to give without disappearing.