Anchor + Chaser

This result reflects a primary Anchor pattern, with Chaser tendencies as a secondary survival strategy. You lead with inner steadiness — but under emotional pressure, the old urge to over-function and chase safety can still get activated.

At your core, the Anchor is grounded. Relationally mature. Able to stay in your center, even when connection gets rocky. You’ve likely done deep work to regulate your nervous system, reclaim your needs, and show up with clarity and self-respect — not just for others, but for yourself. And it shows. Your presence is calming. Your boundaries are intentional. You no longer live in reaction — you live in response.

But when something hits a raw nerve — an old abandonment wound, a sudden rupture, a partner pulling away — the Chaser pattern can kick up beneath the surface. You might find yourself slipping back into over-explaining, anxiously checking in, or trying to “fix” the emotional gap before it gets too wide. It’s not constant anymore, but when it happens, it feels familiar: that ache of needing to be heard, held, understood. That fear that if you don’t do something fast, connection might slip through your fingers.

Together, this pairing can look like calm, embodied presence that occasionally tips into urgency — especially when the stakes feel high. You’re no longer chasing blindly, but the impulse can still flare when it feels like love is on the line. You know how to come back to yourself — and you do. But sometimes the old wiring still runs the show for a beat or two.

✨ The good news? You don’t live there anymore. That urgency is no longer your baseline. It’s a flare — and you’re learning to meet it with compassion, not collapse.

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And if you’re already noticing that you can pause before you reach, breathe before you explain, stay when your body wants to scramble — that’s not just progress. That’s your Anchor holding the reins. Steady. Clear. Unshakeable.